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HOLY MATRIMONY

- Planning your wedding
  Marriage is a Sacrament. The bride and groom contract their marriage in the presence of God and of the community of faith, and become a holy sign of Christ’s love for the Church and of God’s faithful love for the world.
  
  For your convenience, we have put all of our wedding policies in a Wedding Guidelines booklet. Note: Recently, there have been a few updates to the Parish Wedding guidelines. If you previously accessed the guidelines on our website (prior to February, 2025), you may not have the most up to date information. Please access the current Wedding Guidelines booklet (updated March, 2025) by clicking here.
  
  For a marriage to be sacramental, two baptized persons:
  freely enter into a vowed commitment of respect, reverence and love
  make this promise for a lifetime
  promise fidelity to each other
  desire that their love be blessed with children and make the commitment to pass on the gift of faith to their children.
  If you are interested in having your wedding at either St Mary's or St. Bridget's, please fill out the form at the bottom of this page at least six months prior to your desired wedding date. Marriage preparation is required. Many good resources for marriage can be found on www.ForYourMarriage.org.
  
  You will find information on natural family planning education and support here.
  
  If you are not able to fill out the form below, please print this file and complete it. Then return the form to our Parish office.
  The Liturgy
  The Order of the Mass for all liturgies at St. Benedict Parish are in accord with the third edition of The Roman Missal, revised by Decree of the Second Vatican Council and published by authority of Pope Paul VI.
  All liturgies also use rubrics and missals in accord with ICEL-2010 (International Commission on English in the Liturgy), unless exceptions need to be made for nuptial liturgies for couples whose primary language is not English.
  Wedding readings
  For information and selections for your wedding readings, please click here.
  Planning your wedding music
  For information about planning your wedding music, please click here.
- request for Marriage
  
  The maximum number of form submissions has been reached. This form is currently not available.
  
  Requested Info
  
  Date Requested Please enter a date.
  
  Time Requested (On Saturdays, 11am or 2pm are ordinarily the only available times for weddings due to our liturgy schedule) Please enter valid data.
  
  Name of priest of preference: (If you are requesting a priest to officiate who is not currently assigned to St. Benedict Parish, you need to gain permission from our pastor, Fr. Michael Costik.) REQUIRED Please fill out this field.
  
  Name and parish of the priest or deacon of preference (if not Fr. Michael) Please enter valid data.
  
  Church Requested REQUIRED Please fill out this field.
  
  Please be aware that if you want to have a wedding rehearsal before your wedding day at the church, this needs to be scheduled as soon as possible to ensure that the date and time you would like are available. The rehearsal is typically scheduled 1-2 days before the wedding.
  
  Bride Info
  
  First Name REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Middle Name Please enter valid data.
  
  Last Name REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Date of Birth REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter a date.
  
  City AND State of Birth REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Phone Number REQUIRED Maximum 20 characters Please fill out this field. Please enter a phone number.
  
  Email REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter an email address.
  
  Street Address REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  City REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  State REQUIRED Please fill out this field.
  
  Zip REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter a zip code.
  
  Religion REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Have you been baptized Roman Catholic? REQUIRED Please fill out this field.
  
  If yes, list church of baptism (name and location) and year of baptism. Please enter valid data.
  
  Are you CURRENTLY a registered member of St. Benedict Parish? If no, please indicate where you are registered. REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  If your current address is not within the Diocese of Rochester, have you ever lived within the Diocese of Rochester? If so, which town/city and which parish did you attend? REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  If your current address is not within the Diocese of Rochester, have any of your family members ever lived within the Diocese of Rochester? If so, which town/city? REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Bride's Father's Full Name (First and Last) REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Bride's Father's Religion REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Bride's Mother's Full Name (First Name and Maiden Name) REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Bride's Mother's Religion REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Parents registered in parish?
  
  Groom Info
  
  First Name REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Middle Name Please enter valid data.
  
  Last Name REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Date of Birth REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter a date.
  
  City AND State of Birth REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Phone Number REQUIRED Maximum 20 characters Please fill out this field. Please enter a phone number.
  
  Email REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter an email address.
  
  Street Address REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  City REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  State REQUIRED Please fill out this field.
  
  Zip REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter a zip code.
  
  Religion REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Have you been baptized Roman Catholic? REQUIRED Please fill out this field.
  
  If yes, list church of baptism (name and location) and year of baptism. Please enter valid data.
  
  Are you CURRENTLY a registered member of St. Benedict Parish? If no, please indicate where you are registered. REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  If your current address is not within the Diocese of Rochester, have you ever lived within the Diocese of Rochester? If so, which town/city and which parish did you attend? REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  If your current address is not within the Diocese of Rochester, have any of your family members ever lived within the Diocese of Rochester? If so, which town/city? REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Groom's Father's Full Name (First and Last) REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Groom's Father's Religion REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Groom's Mother's Full Name (First Name and Maiden Name) REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Groom's Mother's Religion REQUIRED Please fill out this field. Please enter valid data.
  
  Parents Registered in Parish?
  
  Previous Marriage(s)?
  
  Previous Marriage(s)? (if yes, please complete the area below) REQUIRED Please fill out this field.
  
  When? Please enter a date.
  
  Where? Please enter valid data.
  
  By Whom? Please enter valid data.
  
  Church Annulment?
  
  Do you bring any children into this marriage? REQUIRED Please fill out this field.
  
  Additional Questions/Comments?
  
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- Marriage Preparation team
  
  The Marriage Preparation Team members act as guides for the couples and meet with them in a one-to-one setting to help them through the planning process: to get acquainted, answer any questions they may have, fill out necessary preliminary paperwork, review the “Fully Engaged” profile with the engaged couples, provide them with materials to plan their wedding ceremony, etc.
  Resources and training to assist with planning are available to the prep team members. The team of planners are involved in the ministry on a rotating basis as wedding requests arise.
  If you’d like to join this ministry or have any questions, please contact the parish office.

HOLY MATRIMONY

Planning your wedding

The Liturgy

Wedding readings

Planning your wedding music